“I believe that self-discipline is the definition of self-love.” – Will Smith

Who doesn’t love Will Smith!?!? I mean he’s funny, sweet, genuine in everything that he does (or so I like to believe), and he’s literally everyone’s personal Yoda. I watched this video of Will Smith the other day in which he was talking about self-discipline. Will Smith defines self-discipline as self-love.

As silly as this may or may not sound, I think there is a lot of truth to this. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with the upmost respect. That level of respect channels through our behaviors, our actions, our thoughts, and even our emotions. It channels through everything that we do. That love and respect that we have for ourselves colors us pretty and makes us a force to be reckoned with, but in a good way.

Who doesn’t want that kind of energy in their life? I know I most certainly do, and if you’re reading this post then I think it’s safe to assume that you do too.

So how do we channel this energy? Well, there are three ways we do this. Or should I say three types of disciplines that help us do this. Those three types of disciplines are through self-love, self-worth, and self-control. [Read more…]

Life is tough man. I know everyone says that but you never really understand how tough it is until you have to walk through the fire yourself. You will never understand the hardships that adults warn you about when you are in your adolescent years, until you are forced to take them head on. Once you finally enter into adulthood life usually changes for the better, and that’s a good thing! You can finally do whatever you want without checking in with mom and dad.

However, what no adult ever warns you about is the cycle of self-doubt that you find yourself going through almost on a daily basis. And this cycle is way more vicious than the cycle of self-doubt in your adolescent years. Now I’m only in my 20s, so maybe you learn to stop doubting yourself once you get to your 30s? So far, my glorious years have been filled with nothing but stress, overwhelming thoughts and feelings, and a whole lot of self-doubt.

Self-doubt about what? About everything! I put myself through college and felt accomplished but at the same time that I needed to challenge myself more. So what did I do? I went on to graduate school, and thought for sure that my education journey would have ended after getting my Master’s, but it didn’t. As a result of that I find myself doubting my ability to secure jobs that require you to have a Master’s degree or higher. Why? I have no idea why! It could be due to the fact that I entered the workforce in my 20s and may potentially feel like I am navigating through it too fast. I could also feel this way as a result of not ever seeing a career progression before in my life, so I’m experiencing a lot of self-doubt about whether or not what I’m doing is “normal”.

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