Kimora Chanel

Holistic Wellness and Empowerment Coach

Overcoming Guilt and Shame to Reach Your Goals

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Guilt and shame tend to hold us back from achieving a lot of things in our life. It can hold us back from following our dreams, seeing a major commitment to something all the way through, from remaining consistent with our self-care and wellness routine, as well as from reaching our goals.

This is because when we make ourselves feel guilty or shameful about not doing something, we are essentially making ourselves feel as though we have done something wrong.

We often times get stuck in this rumination about that guilt or shame, and for some of us it can be hard to move past those feelings immediately. So, we end up just waiting in these negative feelings for a light to shine down on us and motivate us to get back up and try again.

But does guilt and shame affect us differently? Is it possible that we can feel guilty about not staying committed to a goal, and still be able to achieve that goal in the timeframe we originally set? Is it possible to shame ourselves about not staying committed to a goal, and still have the desire to reach it?

Believe it or not guilt and shame are one in the same. They both encompass negative emotions that are directed towards the self.

The way they differ is in how we choose to let those emotions hit us. We can shame ourselves, which is actually never a good thing to do (more on that later) and still do what we know deep down inside is the right thing to do. We can also make ourselves feel guilty about something and move on just as easily.

Guilt and shame and the connection they have to reaching your goals greatly depends on the kind of relationship you have with these two emotions. In today’s post I’m going to share with you the differences between guilt and shame, and the direct connection they have to reaching your goals. [Read more…]

Why You’re Having A Hard Time Sticking to Your Goals

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Goals, goals, goals. I can literally talk about them all day because I believe they truly are the driving force for almost everything in our lives. They are essentially the foundation for the life that we ultimately choose to live.

If there is something, we want we make a plan about how to get it. No matter what it is if we want it, we will find a way to get it. Of course, the word “want” in this sense is a clear representation of something that we believe we need to have in order to improve ourselves or our lives in some way. Whether those wants are for improve our relationships, friendships, or careers, if we have our eye set on achieving something, we make a plan about how to get it.

This is the core of goal setting. It starts with acknowledging what it is that you want. We never set goals just for the hell of it. There is always a rhyme and reason behind our decision to go out and achieve something.

Sometimes it’s to complete a bigger picture and sometimes it’s just to fill a void in our life. You can set goals to heal from emotional baggage, to improve your health, or to even just make your life feel so much more fulfilling in some way. Whatever your reasoning may be, goals are the birth of a new chapter in our lives and it would be wise of us to plan accordingly.

But what if you’ve been setting goals, making a plan to achieve them, and for one reason or another you find it hard to see that goal through? What does it mean? Is the goal not challenging enough? Does it not hold a significant meaning to you?

It’s so easy to get stuck on the surface of what our goals are that we often forget to pay attention to all the fine details that make them important. I’ve been at this place many, many times before, and with each time I’ve learned what to do and not do in order to stick to my goals so that I can keep moving forward.

Don’t worry if you find yourself having a hard time with sticking to your goals. It’s a normal part of goal setting and achieving and it happens to the best of us. I’m going to share my top discoveries that have help me get out of my own way so that I could get right back on track with accomplishing all of my goals. [Read more…]

Sustaining Wellness for An Improved Health Overall During Quarantine

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Last week I had the pleasure of being a guest on the Are You Ready to Mingle Podcast where we talked about the importance of sustaining a wellness routine in order to be in the best shape of your life. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally, and spiritually as well.

I felt this was such an important topic to talk about for two main reasons.

One, World Mental Health Day was October 10TH and both Robyn and I wanted to honor that day. Two, because a lot of us are still trying to figure out how to navigate through the pandemic with healthy habits that are not going to push us back from our goals.

Believe it or not even though we have been in quarantine for about roughly 6-9 months now, there are still a lot of people trying to figure out how to sustain their wellness so that they are doing the best they can for their overall health. There’s no shame in this game mainly because this is a whole new lifestyle that a lot of us have been forced to take on so suddenly.

When the pandemic hit, we didn’t have enough time or resources to really make sure that we were prepared to stay at home for an extended amount of time. We weren’t really sure how long we were going to have to stay at home, how long businesses were going to be closed off to the public, and were just taking everything one day at a time.

Every month there seemed to be new information being released about the virus, and new regulations being put in place in order to keep everyone safe, and this made preparing for an extended stay at home even harder. Ultimately the result ended up being that we were required to stay at home and wear masks out in public until further notice.

When this happened, I think it’s safe to say that everyone either panicked or became very frustrated, but really, we all felt extremely unprepared and unsure how to navigate through the pandemic in quarantine for another who knows how many more months. As a result of these emotions people have been struggling even more with finding activities and shifting their lifestyle to keep their health in the best shape possible overall.

Well that’s all about to change if you haven’t already made the necessary changes. I too, like most families and individuals, have been having a hard time adjusting to life at home with my entire family. My goals have shifted, there have been times when they seem impossible to work towards, and I have even noticed changes in my overall health.

However, I have been getting back on track to getting where I started at the beginning of this year before the pandemic took over our lives. I’m going to share with you some tips on how you can sustain your wellness practices for an improved health overall. [Read more…]

Health vs. Weight Which Should You Focus More On?

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When it comes to the status of our health some of us tend to look at it from various perspectives. Some look at being in good health in regards to how you physically look, your weight, eating habits, and even the amount and consistency with which you exercise.

It is because of such a small and narrow view such as this that there is a lot of uncertainty about what is considered good health versus poor health. We tend to get caught up in the idea that healthy looks one way when the reality is that it doesn’t. Healthy looks different among everyone. This is because there are so many things to take into consideration when it comes to being in good health.

It’s not just how you look, in fact I like to argue that, that’s a very small part of it. Being in good health depends on your genes, your eating habits, your daily activity level, your sleeping schedule, and even the way you care for your mind and how that translates to your body. This includes habits such as meditation, practicing mindfulness on all levels, the kind of environment you surround yourself with mentally and emotionally, and even the kind of people you tend to consistently be around.

For me being in good health is a matter of how you care for yourself physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually through habits that are realistic and effective for you as an individual. It’s not one or the other rather it’s all four areas plus positive habits.

But why does society push so hard for health to be a matter of how you look physically? Why does weight play such a major role in how we ourselves define what it means to be healthy? Which should we really be focusing more on? Let’s take a closer and see. [Read more…]

How A Health and Wellness Coach Can Change Your Life for The Better

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Last week I officially launched my Health and Wellness Coaching business!

This has been something that I have been dying to do for about two years now and I’m so excited that it’s finally happening! My main inspiration and motivation for starting my coaching business was the passion that I have for empowering women in so many different ways. I’ve spent a lot of my life striving to accomplish everything that I personally wanted for myself while also trying to please others.

Spoiler alert all this did was lead to many stressful days, many sleepless nights, a lot of anxiety piling up, many periods of depression, and with each passing year I was losing motivation to keep reaching for all my biggest hopes and dreams.

After hitting a wall a couple of times, I knew something had to change. I finally found the courage to admit to myself that things in my life weren’t going to get better until I started making the effort to change the things that weren’t working. So about 4 years ago I finally invested in my first ever one-on-one coaching session and from that day on my life was forever changed.

My eyes had been opened to so many unspoken truths that were playing out right in front of me for a very long time. My first coaching session made it hard to put my blinders back on, and to continue to walk this Earth with my head hanging low. In order to find genuine peace and happiness in my life I knew I had to make some necessary changes. So that’s what I did.

In today’s post I want to share with you some of the ways that a health and wellness coach can change your life for the better. I honestly do not believe that I would have switched gears from pursuing a career as a therapist or psychologist, to one of coaching had I not had this personal experience.

There are so many great things that coaching in general can do for you! I’m going to share with you some of the positive experiences I’ve had that had inspired me to make positive changes in my life as result of investing in a one-on-one coaching session. [Read more…]

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