Happy Mother’s Day to all the mothers, mothers to be, or mothers who are no longer present with us. Mother’s Day is all about appreciating your mother and the female role models in your life who have been mother figures to you. Due to this sometimes this holiday can be an emotional one, for many people, for various reasons. This day can also be a very celebratory one for others again for various reasons. Whatever the case, I think it’s important to acknowledge that this day will impact you in some way (whether you are a mother or not) because it will teach you something about womanhood.

For me Mother’s Day happens to be a little bit of both, emotional and celebratory. Here’s why.

It’s no secret that I don’t have the best relationship with my mother. Well it’s not secret if you know me in person and you know about my life experience with my mother (which if you don’t you’re going to learn a little bit about). While I do love her very much, and I am really protective of her, and very appreciative of everything that she does for me and the family, she hasn’t always been the best female role model for me. In fact, for a really long time she wasn’t a female role model for me at all. If anything, she was a role model for the type of woman I should not strive to be. [Read more…]

“I believe that self-discipline is the definition of self-love.” – Will Smith

Who doesn’t love Will Smith!?!? I mean he’s funny, sweet, genuine in everything that he does (or so I like to believe), and he’s literally everyone’s personal Yoda. I watched this video of Will Smith the other day in which he was talking about self-discipline. Will Smith defines self-discipline as self-love.

As silly as this may or may not sound, I think there is a lot of truth to this. When we love ourselves, we treat ourselves with the upmost respect. That level of respect channels through our behaviors, our actions, our thoughts, and even our emotions. It channels through everything that we do. That love and respect that we have for ourselves colors us pretty and makes us a force to be reckoned with, but in a good way.

Who doesn’t want that kind of energy in their life? I know I most certainly do, and if you’re reading this post then I think it’s safe to assume that you do too.

So how do we channel this energy? Well, there are three ways we do this. Or should I say three types of disciplines that help us do this. Those three types of disciplines are through self-love, self-worth, and self-control. [Read more…]