Lately I’ve been feeling like a total loser. My 2018 year so far has been a rocky one. It’s been fun and I’ve had a lot of really great opportunities presented to me, but it’s also been a little chaotic. A good chaotic though. Yes, I’ve been losing out on a lot of sleep, I haven’t been making my physical health a priority, and I haven’t had the opportunity to participate in activities that serve me for the greater good, but I have been undergoing this unnecessary stress for a reason. There is a really good reason behind my madness people, and here’s what that reason is.
I recently stumbled upon a quote that I just can’t get out of my mind.
“You are only one decision away from a totally different life.”
The funny thing is, I’ve been feeling this way for the past year. I’ve been working really hard at building a life for myself. A life where I’m happy and I feel fulfilled with everything that I do. A life where every decision that I make is for the benefit of MY future. Every day I wake up and I tell myself, whatever decisions I make today are the ones that are going to lead me to a more fulfilled life. I truly believe that the life we all choose to live is a result of the types of decisions that we make. This quote literally put all my thoughts, feelings, and actions from the past year, and from the beginning of this year, into 11 perfect little words.
“I am only one decision away from a totally different life.”
I will carry this quote in my heart from this day moving forward. It will serve me as a daily reminder that, even though my life does not look the way I want it to right now, I can’t every give up, because every day I am getting closer to living the life I have always dreamed of. And the closer I get to living the life I have always dreamed of, the more obstacles I run into. And by obstacles, I mean the good for nothing trolls who love to bring other people down because their life is a mess and they can’t seem to get any control over it.
So here’s the deal!
If something in your life is going tremendously wrong, that’s not an excuse to drag everybody else down with you. You can’t fault other people for your own mistakes. Life doesn’t work like that. It’s not productive and it’s not how we move forward with our life. If anything, it holds us back! And if you find yourself being held back because of the decisions you are making, that gives you no right to try to hold others back as well.
I’m such a huge advocate for living a fulfilled life. It creates so much harmony, happiness, and self-control in your life. By living your life doing the things that are fulfilling to you, you are allowing yourself to be free of all the pressures of this world. Such as having to work at a job that you don’t even love. Or having to commit to something because it’s the “right” thing to do, rather than just choosing not to do it because you don’t want to. No one has the power to make you do the things that you don’t want to do, or to live your life in a way that isn’t fulfilling. So why make yourself suffer at the hands of somebody else? Or better yet, why make others suffer with you?
Living and pursuing a fulfilled life looks different for everyone. Therefore, we can’t fault others when they make the choice to make that happen for themselves. Yet as time goes by I’m seeing more and more people do just that to one another. I’m seeing more people making other people feel bad about wanting more for themselves, about wanting more for their life. Why? It’s a waste of energy, a waste of time, and it accomplishes absolutely nothing. We can’t be mad at others when they choose their own happiness over the happiness of someone else. We only have one life to live. That means we’ve got to live it for ourselves!
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There is nothing more frustrating in life than having to engage with a Debby Downer day in and day out. It’s so exhausting constantly trying to build them up, and hold them up while they are up. You are not entitled to be anybody’s keeper, unless they are your family and you are very close to them. Outside of that, other people are not your responsibility. The happiness of other people is not your responsibility. And for the record, that’s just my own personal opinion. If something in your life is broken it is YOUR responsibility to fix it. No matter who may or may not have played a role in that brokenness, it will always be your responsibility to put the pieces back together in your own life.
Our responsibility as friends, sisters, brothers, nieces, nephews, aunts, uncles, moms, dads, grandparents and everything in between, is to simply support and guide one another. We are not placed on this Earth to impose ourselves in the lives of others, to block the blessings of others, or to make decisions for other people. We may give our opinion when it is permitted, but it is not our responsibility to take control of the lives of others. Nor should we try to anyways. When you have lost sight of what is right in front of you, and the difference between what is real and what is not has become blurred, it is not anybody else’s responsibility to battle that battle for you.
Now I understand that there can be specific situations in which you by all means should do everything in your power to help someone come to their senses. By come to their senses I mean help them find meaning behind the reasons why they do the things they do. Like for example, if you’re co-parenting with your ex-partner, and the other parent wants to remove the child from your life because it’s something their new and current partner may want them to do. By all means, fight for your child! Help the other parent find meaning behind this decision that may or may not be entirely theirs.
However, I’m talking about those moments when you’ve really given all that you can give to someone and they just aren’t taking it. The moments when you are choosing to go out of your way to help guide somebody to the light, and they are just simply refusing to go. Instead they take your opinion, your advice, your help, or your support with a grain of salt, and keep pushing for whatever their mind has already been set on. This isn’t necessarily a bad thing. By all means it’s your life, live it the best way you see fit! But don’t blame other people for the choices and decisions you’re making that are having a negative impact on critical areas in your life. At that point you need to take responsibility for your choices and your actions.
Take responsibility and ownership for your actions, thoughts, and decisions. Not only is it the mature thing to do, but it’s also the right thing to do. We are not meant to agree on everything. It doesn’t matter if you make a decision for your life that someone disagrees with 100%. They can suck it! Because it’s not your responsibility to mold your life around the satisfaction of other people. It is your responsibility to live a life that makes sense to you and for you! It is your responsibility to make decisions that are going to better you as a person! And it is your responsibility to create a life of fulfillment!
You are in control of your life and your decisions. You know what you are and are not capable of in any given moment. Stand up for yourself, and speak up for your life. Protect your life with your life because it’s the only one that you are going to get.
Support one another. Love one another. Guide one another.
Protect your life. Protect your power. Protect your future.
It is your responsibility to make the most of your life. So, do it your way in spite of what others may think, or how they may feel. We all get one life to live, so live it your way.
-Xo
Kimora
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