Hey guys, how’s it going? Hopefully good. I know life can get you down sometimes but we all know the most defining moments in life are the ones when we choose to get back up. Don’t know why I felt the need to share that, it just came across my mind, and I think it’s an important life lesson to share with everyone.
So pass it on.
Something amazing and potentially life changing happened to me a couple of weeks ago. No I did not land an acting contract with a major acting agency…yet…but I did make a really good friend! I know you’re probably thinking this is such a silly think to announce, why would I be sharing this with everyone, but for me this a major breakthrough! And I’ll share with you why.
I’ve probably talked about this before but I’ll say it again anyways. I’m a huge introvert. I’m really shy and most of the time I avoid people like the plague, unless they approach me. With that being said, I don’t really have a lot of friends in my life. And for the most part I’m ok with it. Why? Well because I’m a really goal driven type of person. I have goals, things I want to do and accomplish in my life. And if I’m being honest it’s just hard to stay focused on that when you surround yourself with people who don’t necessarily support you in those goals, or share a similar vision as you.
And I know the logical thing to do is to surround yourself with people who support you and share the similar visions as you, but those kinds of people aren’t easy to come by. It’s a process, you have to find them, scope them out among all the others. And that happens through exploring various relationships. Most people get this start at a young age, peaking in their adolescence. Me? Well let’s just say I skipped that stage in my adolescence. Well skip may be a bit of an overstatement. I tried but couldn’t find any fulfillment at the time, so it’s something I pushed to the side. Choosing instead to focus on my life goals.
Which is why when this miracle happened to me it was a breakthrough for me. I made a friend who is just as goal driven as I am. More importantly, she’s been through a lot of tough social struggles in her adolescence. It wasn’t until her early years of entering young adulthood when she started learning how to stand in her power. A very similar experience that I can relate to. We relate and connect with one another on so many levels and that made me really happy and proud!
Which brings me to 5 reasons why it’s important to surround yourself with people who support you, or share similar life goals as you do.
- You’re relatable
Nothing makes life and the many relationships you will build and maintain more meaningful than the relationships that you can relate to. Having people who support you, encourage you, motivate you, and share similar life goals with you makes life all the easier to maneuver through. When you do this, you create a safe place for yourself. A place where you can find an endless amount of love and support, and that makes life all the more enjoyable. Especially when you have big life goals you are working towards.
- You’re more confident
Demi Lovato said it so perfectly herself. What’s wrong with being confident?
I honestly feel like when we surround ourselves with positive and supportive people, we see a huge increase in our confidence. We truly feel like we can conquer the world. That noting is impossible and our fears mean absolutely nothing. This can be due to knowing that we have people who are supporting us and encouraging us to take life by the balls. And yes, I know that there are a lot of people have this kind of love and support in their lives, but I am also aware that there are a lot of people who do not. For those who do, I can honestly tell you they literally live life so fearlessly, and it’s because they have an increase in their confidence. They are constantly receiving support, positive feedback, and an endless amount of encouragement to be fearless. These are the type of people we need to surround ourselves with!
- You stay focus on your goals
As I mentioned earlier it can be very easy to lose sight of the things that really matter to us when we don’t have supportive and positive people in our life. However, when we do, our life goals are so much more meaningful and realistic. I know a lot of us think that it’s better to go through life serving as our own ride or die. I’ve been one of those people for so long. But I can honestly tell you from personal experience these past couple of months, that there will come a day when you absolutely need others in your life who are willing to be your ride or die. And there’s nothing wrong with that. If you’re as guarded as I am, letting that guard and so others can enter your safe zone can be a scary thing. But when we have people to share our big ideas and goals with, we are more likely to stay focused on them and actually accomplish them. Which should always be the goal in life.
- You find inspiration in every little thing
This is probably the biggest change that I think will come as a result of developing meaningful relationships. With that being said I feel like it’s not hard to find inspiration in every little thing. When I think about this I think about how I’m always depending on my own personal life experiences, my own interests, and my own goals to draw inspiration from. I use that inspiration as the fuel for my motivation and determination to work towards my goals. However, when we have people in our life who are supportive and share similar life goals with us, we can draw inspiration from them. It opens our eyes to a different side of life we probably never thought we would ever have the opportunity to experience or learn about. When we do this, we expand on our knowledge and understanding of the world, and inspiration can come to us in many different ways. And for those artists out there, it may even have a positive impact on our imagination.
- Life is doable
I have always been the type of person to go through life on my own. Yes, I have my family by my side but I’ve never been vulnerable with them. Even still to this day I’m not vulnerable with them. And it’s not because I don’t care about them or love them, or even really trust them. It’s just that I’ve always been super independent, even as a kid. My parents instilled a strong sense of independence in me at a very young age and it just naturally became an important part of who I am. Also, it’s just a really bad habit at this point, not allowing others to be an essential part of my life, only because I’ve been doing it for so long. Plus, if I’m being honest, I don’t like when people worry about me, so it’s just easier to share my accomplishments and all the good with others than to bare it all, heart and soul. The good, the bad, and the ugly. However, I know that we need these types of relationships in our life, the type where we can bare it all. Where we can be vulnerable. And when we have deep meaningful relationships with people who are like minded, it’s easier to be vulnerable, to bare it all. Simply put, life is doable.
And there you have it! I’m still learning a lot about building and maintain meaningful relationships but I feel like I’ve been doing a lot better this year than I have my whole life. And I honestly believe that it’s due to the fact that I have finally found people who I can share my big ideas and life goals with, because I know they will support me.
My new friend and I aren’t at the point yet where we are baring it all, but we are comfortable enough with each to share the really vulnerable parts of ourselves knowing in full confidence that there will be no judgement. And that to me is just enough.
You can’t rush greatness.
Do you have any reasons as to why it’s important to have meaningful relationships? How it can change a person and their lives? If so I’d love to hear all about it!
Until next time love bugs!
-Xo
Kimora